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NobAzn · Posted: Thu Jun 29, 2006 6:00 am Post subject: My girlfriend left me

My girlfriend for 4 years broke up with me on our anniversery(sp), so have a drink on me. She met a guy on saturday at the bar and spent a night at his house yesterday which happens to be our anniversery. She told me today she wasn't happy for a few months, I stood there in awe when she told me she found another guy so fast.

Tonight I'm drowning my sorrows in vodka and beer, haven't eaten since yesterday. Female forum members any advice on how to deal with this pain in my chest. I really thought I was going to marry this girl, she was my world and my everything, now I'm just a friend to her.

NobAzn · Posted: Thu Jun 29, 2006 7:17 am Post subject:

For the last month she ask me if she can go out with her friends, I said ok and last sat. she went to the bar with her friends and met a guy, she spent a night at his apt yesterday. She told me yesterday that it was over last week- but like a women she didn't say it directly.

She told me her new bf is smarter, sweeter and makes more money then me. My only thought that was that this guy is older and thats why he makes money then me at a job, and is sweet because it's only been 1 date and he already got what he was after.

I could careless if he works and gets paid more money then me. I don't care since I make 7k a month just gambling, but I do it less then 20 hours a week. She told me it wasn't about the money, yet she brought up that he makes more money then me.

I don't think I will ever get over this girl, 4 years down that drain. I bought this girl a car and took her to SanFran for her birthday just this year. Never thought that she would do this to me, but what can I do?

My dad told me to forget this chick, but how can I? We been thru thick and thin, hard times and good times. I talked her out of suicide, and she helped me out of debt, I really felt that we were like the perfect couple even though we do have occasionnal fights. Don't think I can do anything anymore, I lost my rythem thru life, my meaning for existing even though she left me for another guy, I would take her back in a heartbeat. I feel like jumping off my roof right now. I want to proclaim to world that breaking up with my girlfriend has broken my sprit and my will. I grow colder inside even though I live in hot humid california, alcohol is the only drink of choice now. Knife thru my heart is much less painless, then the way this relationship has ended. How can women be so vindictive, money mongering sluts, and why do I have to fall in the deepest of love with her, and why o why am I still here on this earth.

punkin21 · High Card Joined: 29 Jun 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Australia

hi hun

......pls don't be so down Sad

. These things happen. ur scenario has happened to me twice. It hurts sooooo bad at the start....but please believe me when i say, IT GETS BETTER. U will learn so much about urself bcoz of this. And u will be a better person and boyfriend (not that u were a bad bf, just u'll understand your role a bit better!) I'm sure you are an ace person, but as I always say " whats meant to be, is meant to be." U guys obviously weren't meant to be........dude u WILL be ok......it just takes time....time heals all wounds.
be good
U'll be ok
Take care

punkin21 Razz

CISK EXPORT · Royal Flush Joined: 13 Feb 2006 Posts: 893 Location: Ohio

Hey Nobanz Like what punkin said time heals.I was married for 6 yrs with 2 lovely boys and we seperated 6 years ago. The first 2 weeks were the worst. Up to 6 months I was still down but after that it started to get better and better. Nowadays I dont even think about her anymore. Dont worry nobanz you will be alright but it takes time. One word of wisdom to you is stay away from the tables for a while untill you feel better.

Take care of yourself.
You'll be ok.

Zherohour · Two Pair Joined: 25 May 2006 Posts: 74 Location: Cleveland

Exact same thing happened to me several years ago. Broke up after 3 years and next week she had a new bf. Like I was supposed to believe she 'just' met him? Nope. It hurts, bad. But believe me it will stop and you'll move on. I spend the next 6 months hanging with my friends and doing WHATEVER i wanted. Spoil yourself. Go to vegas with some friends. THEN when you dont expect it you'll meet your fiancee. Like I did. It happened for a reason, there is someone better out there for ya. Just understand there was nothing you could have done and I know its easy to say, but its true. You'll beat yourself up for a while.."I should have done this..." or " I should have said this" Pointless. Dont do it. You'll laugh at this in a few months. Realize she had her mind made up already. Some people, even though you get along so well, want something different or cant settle. Dont beat yourself up.

supfool123 · Forum Fool Joined: 19 Dec 2005 Posts: 2254

Don't get down on yourself and I know it hurts, but this will make you a better/stronger person for it. I dated a girl for four years and I gave her everthing like you said you did, I bought her a new car, clothes, treated her like royalty, stood up for her, you name it I did it. Then she went to California to visit her sister and ended up sleeping with someone, not only did she sleep with him, but they went on dates and walks on the beach etc... It took me a long long time to get over her and by a long time I don't mean weeks or months, I am talking about a couple of years.

You will find someone when you least expect it. A few years ago I was out enjoying life, partying, taking trips to Florida, doing whatever I wanted and one night I was out with some friends. We were at a bar and I was lit like a x-mas tree, I was trying to play pool and was approched by a girl who asked if I needed a cheerleader. I have been with that cheerleader for 3 years. It happens when you least expect it and things happen for a reason.

There is a song by Rascal Flatts, I can't remember the title of it, but one of the lines is "god bless the broken rode that lead me straight to you." There is a reason for everything and we may not understand it when they happen, but it all comes together in the end. I wish the best to you.

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CISK EXPORT · Royal Flush Joined: 13 Feb 2006 Posts: 893 Location: Ohio

This is part of the song from guns n roses Night Train.

Wake up late honey put on your clothes
Take your credit card to the liquor store
That's one for you and two for me by tonight
I'll be loaded like a freight train
Flyin' like an aeroplane
Feelin' like a space brain
One more time tonight

Pokit2s · Message Board Junkie Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 1261

Dude, that really sucks. Sorry to hear that. I remember how much it hurt when me and my GF of three years almost broke up. I really can't imagine how I feel if she did that sh*t. But you are concious and sober enough to type so you are a stronger man than me. I would like to tell you to just try and forget about her, but I know that's a lot easier said than done right now. Like everyone else said, as soon as you are ready, go out and have some fun. Enjoy being single again. As much as I know it would hurt if I lost my GF, I must admit there are aspects of being single that I miss. Good luck buddy and keep us posted.

(Be careful with the booze too. No shame in getting hammered after somethin like this, just remember not to drive afterwards.)

byamamoto1 · Bay Area Bidness Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 2361

nob i gotta say that its a tough situation that you're in. don't give this beezy any more thought than she gave you when she left you. plus with her meeting a dude so fast, and giving him all these compliments, its obvious she's in the "i think he's perfect" stage of the relationship. you can't trust sh*t she says right now. wait about 6 months and then she was she has to say about the bastard. i know you feel like you wasted the last 4 years, but it's not all a loss. as the great philosopher of our time, tupac shakur once said "keep ya head up".

cypress_98 · Royal Flush Joined: 28 Feb 2006 Posts: 592

Hey man,

There is no quick fix for this. I had pretty much the same thing happen to me, the main difference was that my girl left me for my best friend. That was almost 10 years ago. She was my first and only love. It was my first serious reltionship and I have not had another one since. I haven't seen her in almost 10 years and I know I am still in love with her but yet I would not take her back for any reason in this world.

For a year after she left me I was a miserable drunk, druggie. I had never done anything more than drink occasionally and the occasional toke, but I went off the deep end. I hope that you can find a way not to make the same mistake. The answers that you find in a bottle are not answers at all but miserable lies. I know this from experience.

Go on a trip, treat yourself. Get laid continually with any and every hot chick available. Buy yourself something you have been wanting, but take time to remember this: I am a good person. I am a strong person. No one and nothing can change that. Her loss. She is going to be sorry. She probably already is.

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